13 Truth To Let Go Of Someone You Never Thought Would Say Goodbye

                                           
I know that feelings and know how hurt it is, to see you say goodbye to someone you never thought you would say goodbye to. Life at times, does not actually give what we expect. Every situation always has a better side of it.

When something goes wrong today, it does not mean tomorrow will not be better. Trying to cope after saying goodbye is not an easy task, I must admit this. You have already said goodbye and so what next. How do you come back to the person you were supposed to be? How do you cope? Just continue reading to get to know exactly the tips you need to actually cope.

Life is not a fairytale—it plays funny games in unfortunate ways. At some point in time. Be it your forever person, your mentor, your best friend or even the love of your life—goodbyes suck big time!
Some people enter into a relationship for a defined period, but when they have to part ways, it leaves years of pain behind. Letting go of your soul mate is extremely painful.
It’s not just about a person, but about all those memories and future planning that turns into impossibility. It’s because of the beautiful times spent together, crazy fights, understanding each other and even supporting in the time of need.

 

All of it makes it almost the hardest thing on earth to leave someone. To bid them goodbye!

The one who meant the world to you, who changed your life, who taught you how to live, the one who was always there for you and without whom you could never imagine your life—is going to leave your life for good? Even the thought of it is scary!

2: Meeting new people
Meeting new people help you find different ways to feel better or even get the old you back. Give your soul another chance to be loved. It’s not necessary that you have to fall in love the way you did before, but a little step towards affection could help you go a long way—maybe even satisfy you enough!
People usually meet, and within a week they’re together in a relationship. Such kind of relationships doesn’t really work out. Therefore, this time you should be careful and make sure you go slowly to make the journey last longer.

3: Make sure you know why you had to say goodbye
Its human nature to recall beautiful memories of the past and wonder why you had to let someone go in the first place. All those good memories make you miss them, and you wish to go back to them. Not a good idea!
Instead of missing them, you must remember some bad memories to help you forget them and not think about them as an ideal. No one says you have to hate them to move on, but reminding yourself time after time why you had to say goodbye will help you to feel much better.

4: Be clear about why you should remain apart
At some point in time, you may feel that it was a wrong decision made and you guys were perfect enough to be together. But you should know the reason you both broke up in the first place and why you shouldn’t get back together. These questions will help you a lot in staying focused and not getting distracted.
Sure it’s tough to control your emotions when you have the opportunity to go back. Keeping them aside, you must clear your mind about why you need to let go and move on. If you do not make your intentions clear to yourself, it is likely that you end up doing something which you shouldn’t have. So be sure about it!

5: Take time to picture your ideal person and then point out flaws in your ex
We all wish to marry the man or woman of our dreams, but wait! Have we even defined how our ideal should be? Without knowing what qualities you desire in your future partner, how can you decide if he or she is suitable for you or not?

 All these matters are important to help you find the right person. No one is perfect neither we expect them to be. What you can do is make a list of the top most priorities you see in your partner—the most important characteristics. Of course, not everyone is lucky enough to find their partner exactly the way they define the criteria. Nothing to worry about.

This outline will help you in comparing the qualities of your ex and the one you are expecting to share your future with. It might turn out to be even better than your expectations. You never know!


6: True love is the right one
Until and unless you don’t meet new people or develop pure feelings for the right person, you keep on believing that you lost your true love. As soon as you find your true love, it plays a major role in helping you move on.

 Not that you forget your ex, but it will make you realize what pure love feels like. It may even go far enough to make your old love diminish gradually. It’s just that you will not be craving for that person anymore. Even if they cross your mind, you’ll remember them as a part of your life but won’t get shattered all over again.

 

 

 

7: Be yourself
In search of your true love, somewhere down the line, you forgot yourself!

You changed as a person and the way you viewed life. Love destroys the sense of selfishness. One becomes completely selfless and devoted to their love. However, when they have to leave them, it hits them so hard that they change as a person.

Therefore, try to find out the old empowered single self of yours. You have got another chance to be yourself again!

8: Forgive before forget
If you don’t forgive someone, do you think forgetting is possible without having to forgive them? It’s not the case! Rather it’s the first step towards forgetting someone. If you don’t forgive someone, you are not forgiving yourself.
This way we stay involved in thinking of ways how to ignore them or delay forgiveness. Trust me or not, the happiest person is the one who forgives. It helps you the most in forgetting that person. 

 

 9: Remove all evidence
Even if you pretend that you have moved on, deep inside you haven’t. The hardest stage of this test is when you have to delete all the chats, images, or even throw away gifts. That’s nearly impossible. Whenever you want to do so, it feels like something is stopping you and you end up not deleting their memories.

 10: Small acts of acceptance
If you succeed in deleting all those romantic emails and messages, you deserve to treat yourself! Go out with your friends or get a spa treatment. It will help you in normalizing the after effect of doing so.

 11: Replace emotional thoughts with facts
Whenever your mind comes across the thought that you won’t even be loved again or something discouraging of that sort, simply swap it. Replace that thought with a factual thought. Be it about your new accomplishment or some task undone.

 12: Love yourself first
Try to place a sticky note wherever possible that says, “Loving yourself means letting go”. What it does is, whenever you felt low on life, simply revise the lesson that you can’t love someone until you love yourself. Therefore, learn to love yourself first and then expect someone to love you.

 13: Have a positive approach
Even if things seem impossible, thinking it in a positive way makes them work out. Just a positive thought and you wouldn’t regret this approach of yours. You must stand out in a crowd!