29 Secrets Of What A Guy Wants In A Relationship But Will Not Tell His Babe!

                     

Some guys are so shy to admit certain things to their women , even if they feel she should be aware of it. “Just like the saying that goes “it is not easy to understand a woman,” this also goes to the men. So many ladies do not really know what guys want in a relationship. You might be in a relationship with a guy and do not actually know what the guy want.
Guys on the other hand at times, do not actually tell their women what they want, but they actually want these things. This depends on the individual. That is why in this article, I will be discussing the  

29 things every guy want in a relationship but will never tell you as a lady.
A lot of guys don’t talk about their feelings, but rest assured, everyone has things they want out of a relationship that they won’t tell you. Nowadays, it’s hard enough making a relationship last, let alone finding out what your partner really wants. Don’t stress though, because we’ve put together a list of the things most guys actually want from their girlfriends.
What men really want in a relationship are not superficial things in a relationship, such as the most beautiful girl with the best hourglass figure and looks, and a woman that is going to perform the best sexually. Men are looking for more complex attributes in a relationship.

Ladies 29 Things Every Guy Want in a Relationship But Will Not Tell You – #27 Should Never be Ignored

1. Adventures in the bedroom

 Not saying get freaky with whips or chains but being up for new things in the bedroom keeps things fresh. Don’t hurt your back!

                                  

2. Mutual respect without ego problems

There’s no way a relationship’s going to last if she’s shallow and thinks you’re beneath her.
An actual connection rather than just getting with someone for the heck of it is better for longer lasting happiness.

                              

3. Spontaneity and a little craziness

 If she doesn’t make you laugh, then she’s probably meant for someone else. It’s not harsh, it’s just true.
                              

4. Real intimacy, not just a fling

5. Being close with enough space of their own

This might be a personal opinion but if a couple isn’t chill then things get heated really quick and life’s too short for pointless disputes. Giving people their space is good as it keeps both your identities separate.

6. As few insecurities as possible                                                                                             Everyone has them, but keep it under control. Insecurities are usually stupid, unfounded and petty.

7. Freedom from being judged

Guys want to be themselves around their girlfriends, and it sucks if they can’t because of what the girl thinks.

8. To be loved for who they really are

Even if they won’t admit it, a guy will groom himself to impress his sweetheart. He will even change the things she doesn’t like about him. But he also wants to seen for who he really is, and be loved for that.

9. A relationship that’s comforting through the bad times

Having the support of someone during tough times is something that brings people very close. Guys may try to not show weakness, but everyone feels bad on the inside, so it’s good to have a pillar of strength, plus you know you can depend on them then.

10. Guys also want to be pampered

Though guys try to put on a macho image, and love baby-ing their sweethearts, it’s not like they don’t love to be pampered themselves! A surprise gift, a relaxing massage, a loving gesture are all welcome and much appreciated.

11. He wants you to make an effort to share his interests

Opposites attract, but I draw the line if she doesn’t watch Game of Thrones. Get my drift? 

 

 

12. Your guy wants you stepping up for him when someone puts him down

Yes he can fight his own battles, but he’s even stronger when you are on his side.

13. Some retro romance

Not saying she’s got to be all ladylike with high heels but as long as she knows herself, that’s all that matters.

 

14. Openness in communication, not beating around the bush by dropping ‘hints’

If a couple can’t talk about things freely, then doomsday cometh sooner than you think. It’s better to say things straight to the face than go through a long process.

15. A good taste in music

I’m being kind of selfish but yeah, a good taste in music = a good taste in alcohol = a good view on life.

16. To feel like your hero.

Guy don’t want to be your Clark Kent. Man want to be your Superman. Man want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. Man want to carry you in our arms and show you the world. Or at least feel that way. And I know it’s their job to get there, but nothing gives man more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes man feel invincible. If you make man feel invincible, they will make you feel like you’re the most beautiful creature on this planet.

17. Not to be left in the dark.

So many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat. Or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave man in the dark. man don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with your man.

Couples grow and get stronger overcoming adversity, not by doing life separately. Know that every time you hold things in, you are building walls inside the sacred space of the relationship. No, man don’t want you to verbally vomit on them. But believe it or not, your man really do want to know who you truly are.

18. The C-word.

Communication. Without it, relationships are built on sand. your man want you to communicate directly. man don’t get clues. your man need things spelled out. And man understand that if you have to spell it out, it’s not the same. You don’t just want him to do the dishes. You want him to want to do the dishes. your man get it. OK, then tell him. Explain. Model how you would like him to communicate back.
For many of man, communication is not their specialty. man need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet him at logic, he will match your emotions. Hopefully. But they need you to tell them.

20. Respect

Men feel respect as love.
If he feels like you disapprove of him, his career, or the things that he believes to be integral to who he is as a person, he will have a hard time trusting and loving you.
The thought process behind that being “If she doesn’t respect who I am at my core, then how can she really want what is best for me?”

21. Emotional Intimacy.

From a very young age, men are taught to avoid appearing weak at all costs. Perceived “weakness” includes things like complaining, divulging fears or concerns, and expressing self-doubt or worry.
A man’s partner is his safe space to fall. He can expose the cracks in his armour and allow his partner to help him heal.
Just as women need to slowly open up sexually within a relationship, men open up over time emotionally.
He needs to make sure that when he first cries in front of you, you won’t be repelled or handle it poorly. If you push him away or are unable to be nurturing when he needs it the most, he will no longer trust you with his emotions. He will remove himself somewhat from the relationship.
In this instance, both partners lose- he goes on silently suffering and believing that he is flawed in his imperfection, and she is held at arm’s length emotionally.

22. Physical Touch.

Men need frequent non-sexual touch as well as a sense of sexual access.
If a man’s partner comes up behind him and touches his neck and hair in a loving way while he sits absorbed in a task, he could feel just as loved as if they had just had penetrative sex (even more so, depending on his mood).

This touch is interpreted as physical love- the message of which registering as “I love you, and I want you to feel happy all the time. Know that I’m always here for you and I care for you deeply.”

23. Security.

Men and women are both attracted to certainty in a relationship. The more a man feels like his partner is in it for the long haul, the more ready and able he is to be able to open up to her (assuming he is equally invested in her).
But security goes deeper than just the fact that you won’t leave him. The security that he feels ties back in to several of these points. He feels secure in knowing that you approve of him and where he is in his career. He feels secure and loved when you touch him non-sexually throughout the day. He feels secure when he is allowed to have his guys’ nights away from you and you don’t feel the need to call or text him every half hour to check in.
And he feels secure with a partner who takes steps to love him in the way that he most needs.

24.Trust

Men do not want to be with a woman that constantly overlooks her man’s footsteps. If he’s going out with the guys, a man needs to know that his partner will be able to trust his judgment. If he says he doesn’t know, then he needs someone to believe him. No one wants to have a relationship where there is no trust.

25. Equality.

A man wants each person in the relationship to be equal. No one wants to feel like they are doing all of the work or not carrying their weight. Men want to feel like they’re part of a team.

26. Acceptance.

Men need to know and feel like no matter what happens that their woman will love them unconditionally. They don’t want a woman to change, not that they won’t compromise, but they don’t want to be someone’s puppet. Instead they want to live organically and have change play out naturally.

27.Separate Lives.

While it may sound harsh at first, men want to have their own friends, activities and passions. It’s important, to them, that each person have their own identities and be supportive of each other. Men believe that a relationship is suppose to bring out the best of a person, not suffocate them into being someone else.

  28. Most times women hold back on taking the lead in a relationship, whereas men prefer his woman to take a lead occasionally. Even if he is a born leader this does not mean that, he expects to and enjoys this position all the time.

 29. Men enjoy his woman to be gentle with him. He does not enjoy the fact that because he is the man of the house he needs to keep a stiff upper lip. Cuddling, hugging, reassurance of the woman’s love for him goes a long way in a relationship.